Masirimso17 said:
Sometimes I overhear their talks about other guys, and surprise surprise, no mention of me
but they talk about their physique and stuff so I dunno ?
They did once say to I was the nice guy and guys should be more like me, but they always say that and nothing more ever happens.
Nothing wrong with working on one's physique! I've been doing a pull-ups/sit-ups/push-ups/chin-ups regimen in the comfort and convenience of my room (following the sites linked previously) 2-3 times a week for over two years now, and while I can't say as it's helped me with the ladies, necessarily, I do feel strong and powerful right after doing them, and that's a great feeling in of itself. Indeed, I try to time such regimens to right before dates (with time for a brief shower, of course), so as to exude maximum charisma and health.
Masirimso17 said:
Even asking her out to hang out as friends and getting to know her, it seems very forward, especially for someone like me who’s so socially awkward and doesn’t go out much often. I guess the study sessions could be my opportunity. But I’ll try not to force it.
Dating and flirtation is a dance, hombre. So, what message do you think you're sending if you view a simple hangout as "very forward," but an attempt to trick her into a date as legit? Believe me, I know how tough it is to get used to the whole concept of dates, especially at your age. In college, I thought a fellow member of our College Democrats chapter was a cutie, and one day in the library, I chatted her up and suggested we get lunch at the cafeteria a day or two later - and lo, we did! But nothing else happened, maybe because nothing else could have, but I definitely didn't suggest we meet again (off-campus this time) for a meal, a dessert, a drink, whatever. (In fairness to me, she wasn't yet 21, and if I was, it wasn't by much.) Going on first dates has since become vastly easier for me, partly because I'm comfortable in bars, but mostly because I arrange to meet particular women from apps and such, so I know going in that they want to spend at least a few minutes talking with me specifically. So, again, I get it: at your age, this is all very awkward and tough, and perhaps more so in Turkey than here.
That said, while asking this girl to tutor you may indeed be a good way to become friends with her, IMO, it's not likely to lead to attraction, and could well weird her out if she starts to sense an ulterior motive on your part you're not willing to openly acknowledge. To oversimplify, women don't spend their whole girlhoods daydreaming of tutoring Prince Charming - they dream of him riding in on a magnificent horse and whisking them away on an adventure. My advice would be to search for such literature/studies assistance elsewhere, and be more direct in asking her to spend time with you doing more fun activities. If you learn she's not interested in dating you, you can always fall back on the tutoring request as simple friends.
