Sorry for the long post and the possibly bad english and typos
1 - I kind of agree that Rian Johnson played with too many twists all along the movie. I was entertained by them, so it worked on me, but like I already said, I'm wondering if those story tricks can resist the test of time. I'll tell ya in some years!
2 - I don't see "plot holes", I see story decisions that people can not agree with but did not bother me.
I do agree that Yoda sounded a bit too much like Yoda playing with "unaware Luke" in ESB. But the overall scene was good.
I think you're indeed focusing a lot on the details (Sherlock avatar!) when I usualy don't. For example you say that you find cool that they teased the hyperspace tracking in Rogue One. I really don't care about that sort of things. Thinking twice after the movie I told myself, wait, Tarkin put a tracking device on the Falcon in ep4, so is that a continuity error? But in the end it's not really the same thing, and EVEN if there was a continuity error it's not a huge problem and it's not that sort of thing that makes a movie good or bad for me. What makes a good movie is not really "the product" that I'm watching (if all the lines are going in exact same direction or not), what's important is what I feel when I'm watching it. For example I loved the first SAW movie and I found amazing what's happening in the very last scene, even if it is honnestly not really plausible... The fact that no one recognize Superman when Clark Kent put his glasses on is not a plot hole, it is simply what the movie is telling you. You agree or you don't, you feel comfortable with it or not. That's all.
I think Luke is hiding for at least some years because Luke looks a bit younger but Kylo's not a child. I guess something like 5 years? I don't understand how this would be a problem though.
3 - Why are dark side users stronger than 'light side' using similar abilities?
Because it's easier to break things that to repair them?
I'm not sure I can follow your examples though, Snoke connecting Rey and Kylo for example, I don't see that as a "full time job". I never pictured Snoke watching Rey and Kylo all along (or else he would already know where is Rey) and keeping using his power to keep the contact.
When you say Yoda concentrates to lift the ship so it shows that it's difficult for him to do that compare to Snoke lighting Rey and scanning her mind... I think that if you really want to get in the details 1: Rey is somehow not as heavy than a X-Wing! and 2: the meaning of the ESB scene was to show Luke that it is EASY to lift an X-Wing if you really wants it. So saying that it looks difficult for Yoda to do that goes against the meaning of that scene.
4. Is this about good vs evil or isn't it?
In 1977 it was clearly about good vs evil.
During the prequels, it was already more a grey area where good guys could turn bad.
For this new trilogy... of course there are still and good and evil but I don't think it's the focus. I think it is more about learning who you are and dealing with the past and the future.
That said my main problem with this trilogy is that it really seems there's not "great plan" from the start. Each director work on each episode like if it's a new story. I hope I'm wrong but from what I heard Rian said, I think it's the case. So I don't know what the whole trilogy will be "about" until I see Ep9...
BUT... even Lucas didn't really know everything when he made the OT and the prequels.